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AITA-He made “jokes” at me all day. I made one back and now he’s sulking

My hubby kept making jokes at me all day yesterday. I felt more like they were digs and after the first few I pulled him on it. For example we finished an episode of our show and then I said I was going to go clean the house. He said “that will make a change” and started laughing. I do literally all the housework so I wasn’t impressed but let it go. Anyways fast forward to the evening after a whole day of this (jokes about me as a wife/mother), he sends me this dating joke about how if you’re looking to date a woman with a sense of humour you’re SOL since they don’t exist. I said “reallly?” He replied I only just proved his point, that I had no sense of humour. Fed up I replied “well I must do, since I married you and you’re a whole feckin joke.” Now he’s been sulking and barely talking to me. Did I take it too far? AITA? If so I will apologize. Tl;dr- hubby made jokes all day. I made one back but may have taken it too far.

2025-09-04 14:32:15

Clara Jensen

Family

AITA for “ruining Christmas” and being upset the only gifts I got from my family were “joke gifts”

Some background, my family likes to play pranks with Christmas and birthday gifts it’s nothing new. I (f21) as well as my 5 siblings (from 29 to 37 years old) have all been pranked on our birthdays and on Christmas and usually it’s one or two gifts. This Christmas though, I was the only person to get all joke gifts. For example, I unwrapped a MacBook from my brother, but when I opened it, it was just some chocolate (which I don’t eat so I gave it away) and the MacBook was actually given to my sister inside a bag she wanted. Another “gift” was what I thought was a book I put on my Christmas list was actually just the book cover put on a dictionary. When I asked my mom about the book she told me she gave it to my Sil This went on with each present my siblings or parents had given me. AirPods was just a charger block? Adapter? gift cards were used and had $0 balance, a card with Monopoly money, and so on totaling to about 12 joke gifts. I realized I went out of my way to get everyone something they wanted or they’d like didn’t get anything. At this point i was bummed so I went to the living room to watch tv with my boyfriend. At dinner they were all talking about how much they loved their gifts and when my dad asked why I hadn’t said anything about mine, I said there wasn’t much to say. Everyone but my boyfriend laughed and my mom said it was no big deal as everyone else also got some joke gifts. I told her every gift I got was a joke gifts and that the ones they got was also followed by the real one. My dad told me I needed to relax as I’m making a big deal about it and I’d have next Christmas to get the stuff on my list. Not wanting to go back and forth i told my boyfriend I wanted to leave and we can spend the rest of Christmas break with his family then go home. My family got mad and told me not to go and to just stay because it wasn’t serious. I left and put my phone on do not disturb during the drive and by the time we got to bf’s parent’s house, I had several missed calls and texts from them calling me names like ungrateful, sensitive, and childish. They said I ruined Christmas and made my parents upset cause I left. The next day, I exchanged and opened gifts with my boyfriend and his family and one of the gifts I had gotten was the book I wanted (the book my mom pretended to gift me). I posted it on my instagram story and not even 0 minutes after posting it, my sister sent a screenshot of my story to the family group chat and they basically got mad at me for leaving and telling me I ruined Christmas over some presents. They told me I owe everyone, especially my parents, an apology because my mom spent new years sad because of my actions. Now I just want an outside party to tell me if I’m TA here? Am I in the wrong for being upset about the gifts and for leaving? After reading their messages and sitting on this for a few days I’m now feeling like maybe I was upset over nothing and need to apologize to them. *Gonna edit as there may have been some misunderstanding, my Christmas list didn’t include expensive gifts nor was I upset I didn’t receive expensive gifts. I was merely upset because of being pranked with everything I got and being the only person who didn’t get a real present that is all. Another thing I’ll address is I dint do anything to my family which would warrant them doing this. The last “big argument” I had was with my sister which was over a year and a half ago. Thank you for the replies and I will try my best to reply to comments while I’m at work. Editing once more to add I participated in joke gifts when I was a kid, haven’t participated in the last 10+ years because I didn’t enjoy it or find if funny (which thy do know). I will reply with more info if needed when I’m on break or have time to reply. - and I am familiar with the term scapegoat but truthfully don’t fully understand so I will research that as well.

2025-10-06 18:46:09

Anya Petrova

Humor

AITAH: Canadian in the USA here... lost it on a neighbor after hearing the 51st State "Joke" for the 50th time.

I'm a Canadian visiting the USA for the winter. I love America. Totally love it. The weather, the people, even the "rah rah I'm AmErIkUa! best in the world" attitude. You go America. You have a lot to be proud of. And my neighbors are the best too. But I am so sick of the "Hey you guys are going to be the 51st state soon!" "Joke". FUCK THAT. I love my own country too. Much as I love the USA, I am Canadian first and we are proudly independent. Hard as it is to wrap an American mind around the concept, there are actually people who love visiting the USA, love the USA, but do not wish to be Americans. Would an American like to be told by say Cuba that soon the USA would be invaded and annexed? Hell no you would not. So the other day a neighbor did the "joke" again "Bet you can't wait to be the 51st state!" and I said "that can not happen in my lifetime" he looked puzzled so I added "Because I would take up arms to defend my country and die before I let that happen." He was shocked and wandered away shaking his head. I know he wasn't intending to be offensive and I realize I may be a bit of an AH for overreacting but damn it... that's just a nasty thing to say to a Canadian visitor.

2025-10-28 17:25:47

Anya Petrova

Humor

AITA for kicking relatives out with nowhere to go over a religious joke?

Throwaway account. Myself (F48), husband (47) and our two daughters (16 and 14) are Jewish. While we will very occasionally go to services because my mother is the queen of guilting you to into it, we are really not very religious at all. Mainly more spiritual. Most of the time we celebrate the holidays hanging out with family at home with a big meal. That’s how we like it. I *guess* you could say we are reform. Husbands cousin and his family are staying with us this month while their home is under renovation. They are much more conservative than us and honestly, it’s been getting frustrating. They act very entitled. The girls don’t like their two boys who are roughly the same age because they tried to treat them like servants. We nipped that in the bud quickly but cousin and his wife seemed almost annoyed. There’s been a few other things nuanced to the culture we’ve clashed about; but the point here is that we do not get along. It’s Yom Kippur right now; fasting and atoning mainly. The attitude toward fasting in my house is you do you. That was a major source of irritation for them, but tough. However, this morning my eldest discovered her sister in the process of eating the last everything bagel, which she wanted. She said “oh you’re gonna atone for that!” and the two of them started playfully fighting. They had me in stitches- until cousin stormed in a screamed at us till he was red in the face for making a mockery of a holy day. I couldn’t get a word in and the girls were in tears when he was done. They’re done staying here as far as husband and I are concerned. We told them to pack up and head for a hotel. However, we’re getting immense pressure from family to let them stay, and guilt is starting to creep in. AITA if we do this? Edit for some info people have been asking for- So; the differences we’ve clashed over have been mainly things like keeping kosher (we don’t have pork and that’s pretty much it) and that we do not observe the Sabbath. The house is undergoing pretty extensive reno. They have very limited space. We are the closest family; hence why we took them in. Finally, regarding my girls- They have not been disrespectful, once. They made it clear that they would NOT be doing things for cousins kids they were capable of doing themselves just because they were girls. This morning, cousins family was streaming services in the basement. Eldest daughter made her joke, put her sister in a very light headlock and gave her some noogies. I was laughing, younger daughter was chuckling while pretending to bite her sister. I have never allowed them to make jokes about cousins family being more observant. The way my eldest explained it, her joke was towards the whole holiday. Cousin stood in the doorway screaming- I couldn’t calm him down for quite a while.

2025-09-04 19:55:33

Jonas Bergström

Family

AITA for charging an “entry fee” for a family dinner on April 1st, leading my aunt to think it was an April Fool’s joke?

I (26F) am the go-to host for family dinners, and I usually enjoy it. But my aunt (55F) has a frustrating habit: she shows up uninvited with extra guests like friends or random relatives without telling me. It’s happened too many times, leaving me to stretch food and space on the spot. I’ve asked her nicely to give me a heads-up, but she just says, “Family should be spontaneous,” and ignores me. With today being March 31st, I’m hosting a family dinner tomorrow, April 1st, for my parents’ anniversary. Knowing my aunt will likely crash it with extras, I decided to try something new. Last week, I sent a group message saying that because hosting costs keep rising (and the guest list keeps growing), I’m asking each adult to chip in $10 to cover expenses. I figured this was a fair way to handle it without pointing fingers. Tomorrow’s the big day, but I can already picture it: my aunt will roll up with three unannounced friends. When I ask for the $10 contributions at the door, she’ll probably laugh and say, “Oh, great April Fool’s joke!” I’ll have to explain it’s not a prank and that it’s about respect and planning, especially since she keeps doing this. I’m betting she’ll get mad, call me “stingy,” and storm off, which has happened before when I’ve set boundaries. The family’s already split. Some think I should let it slide since it’s a special occasion (and tomorrow’s April Fool’s Day might confuse things), while others say I’m right to stand my ground. I’m worried my aunt will spin it as me pulling a “mean prank” if she takes it the wrong way.

2025-10-28 12:37:10

Anya Petrova

Humor

AITA for embarrassing my FIL after I repeatedly asked him to explain his joke to me?

I (27F) used to be an ''*escort*'' (h\*oker) from 18 until I was 23, I'm not proud of it but I also don't give a fuck because I did what I had to do to keep studying and a roof over my head. That's how I met my now fiancé (37M) tho he was never my client. We began to date when I was 25 and three or four months after that his BIL ''exposed me'' (no idea how he found out) because *there's no way my fiancé knew* and thus we had to come clean in front of his whole family. Yes I did that. Yes he knows. Yes he doesn't care. It was 2 years ago (at that time), we got over it. After that there was a span of 3-4 months in were my MIL and some of my fiancés aunts and cousin ''police'' their husband when I was around, it was really weird tbh because this dudes were like 40-60yo and I wasn't that desperate, so my fiancé shut their bullshit hard and even when his family still gives me the side eye from time to time, we thought it was behind us. He proposed last year and five months ago we found out that I was pregnant, we were really happy about it and we told his family as soon as we knew. His sisters and young brother were happy for us, but his mom took me aside and *begged* me to be honest with her and asked if this was really my fiancés child, I was taken aback but I just rolled my eyes and said yes, she gave me some shitty speech about how ''she only wanted to make sure'' and that ''she was happy to be a grandmother''. Well, last weekend we were at his parents with his family and some of his friendsand we were talking about the name, how he might look (small talk, we will love him regardless but there's always some ''*Oh I hope he gets your nose!*'' ''*mmh I like your eyes, I hope he gets them*'' comments) and my FIL said that he and his children have a birthmark in the inner tight and that even his grandchildren (one of my SIL's kids) got them, so our baby might too, and then he said ''But how can we know from who he got it? it may as well be from me, my boy or my brothers'' and he and his brothers began to laugh. My fiancé got mad and before he could say anything I said ''I don't get it'' and my FIL was ''yeah because it runs in the family'' and I said again ''I don't get it, why would he get it from you?'' and he began to get nervous and said ''because you know... it's just a joke OP'' and I said ''but I don't get it and you all laughed, explain'' it got to the point that some of his friends said ''hey, it's not funny'' so he he excused himself and left. Later my fiancé's BIL came to me and said that I was wrong for embarrassing him like that in his own house and that I knew what the joke was about and *because of my past*, I shouldn't be surprised. Now they're all demanding that I apologize to my FIL.

2025-08-29 08:56:55

Anya Petrova

Humor

AITA for saying the same jokes my FIL uses to give him a piece of his own medicine.

My FIL humor can be quite cruel at times. He always seems to take jokes way to far or will make jokes about people's appearances. Like calling people dumbo ears, or poking jokes at their size/weight. It's not a good time and many people have tried to get him to stop. But he thinks that he is being hilarious and its all in good fun. So this happened at the NEw Years get together with the family. He started doing the jokes and everyone just trying to get through the night. Well, he got to me and I wasn't having it tonight. He made one joke about my nose so I started to lay into him using his jokes. I used most of his weight jokes, poked fun at his beer belly, used the jokes about dumbo ears and hooked noses. I used as many as I could remember. He was quite upset about it in the end and I told him this is how all of us feel everytime you make these jokes. Today I got a text from my MIL and SIL that I took it too far and that I'm an ass. SO AITA

2025-11-08 20:14:44

Jonas Bergström

Family

AITAH for telling my sister she can't live with us anymore after she called CPS on me as a "joke"?

I (30F) need to know if I'm being too harsh here because my family is completely divided. My younger sister (26F) moved in with my husband (32M) and me about four months ago after she lost her job. We have a toddler and a baby, so it's been hectic, but we wanted to help her get back on her feet. She was supposed to stay for two months max while job hunting. Here's where it gets messy. Last week, I asked her to watch the kids for an hour while I ran to the pharmacy. When I got back, she was on her phone while my toddler had gotten into the pantry and made a huge mess with flour everywhere. I'll admit, I lost my temper and told her she needs to actually WATCH them when she agrees to babysit. She got defensive and said I was being ungrateful for "free childcare" (reminder: she lives here rent-free). We argued, and I told her if she can't do the bare minimum to help out, she needs to start looking for her own place. Two days later, CPS showed up at my door. The worker said they received a report that I was "overwhelmed and potentially neglecting my children." I was MORTIFIED. After they left (finding nothing wrong, obviously), my sister started laughing and said she called them to "teach me a lesson about being ungrateful" and that it was "just a prank." I told her to pack her stuff and get out. Now. She's been staying with our parents, who are FURIOUS with me. They say she made a stupid mistake but she's family and I'm overreacting. They keep saying she was just stressed about being unemployed and lashed out. My mom even said I'm "ruining her life" over a joke gone wrong. My husband backs me 100% and says what she did was unforgivable. But now half my extended family isn't speaking to me, and my mom calls daily crying about how I'm tearing the family apart. My aunt even posted on Facebook about how "some people forget where they came from" (clearly about me). The thing is, I keep second-guessing myself. She IS my sister, and she's never done anything like this before. But I can't get over the fact that she weaponized CPS against me. That's not a joke. That could have had serious consequences for my family. AITA for kicking her out and refusing to let her come back?

2025-10-13 19:07:25

Elise Dubois

Humor

AITA for hiding embarrassing notes in my house as a joke because I know my fiance's mom snoops?

I bought a house seven years ago and I met my fiance, Al, four years ago. This year he moved in. We're talking about making it a home for both of us. But as of now, he hasn't moved much stuff in, right now 95% of the stuff and furniture in the house is mine. When his mom comes over, she's kind of a snoop. He was used to that, but when she comes to our house, it's so uncomfortable because she's just going through my shit. When I am bothered, she's like "I was just helping with chores" etc. He says I should just let her because she has "a lot of nervous energy." One thing she snooped on was actually embarrassing. In my home office, I had a little "affirmation" post it note on my monitor saying "I am smart, I am skilled, I am deserving of great things." It was a silly thing my therapist recommended to get me in a confident mindset before an interview. Anyway, she made a comment to about my ego. But as a joke, I decided to do it again. I had my best friend over and we got wine drunk and wrote a bunch of "affirmations" to hide. Some were: Medicine cabinet: My teeth will regrow! I am sharklike and powerful! Kitchen drawers: I know when to spoon, but I also know when to fork! I am sexy and self assured! Work desk: I will not just fuck my way to the top of the company, I will fuck my way to the top of the world! Walk in closet: I am beautiful with clothes and without! Especially without! My boobs are legendary! There were a bunch more, and my friend and I had a hilarious time writing them. Next time my MIL came over she saw a few. And she didn't acknowledge them to me even though she definitely started acting a little weird about me. I went to run some errands and when I was out, she confronted Al about the notes and was trying to tell him that I seemed unstable, egotistical, and moving in was a bad idea. She showed him the notes and he didn't really know what to make of it. He asked me and I said that they were just some silly private notes to boost my self confidence and make myself laugh; how had she gotten them? Had she been going through my things? He said she was just tidying, and saw them. And they were real weird. I was like 'have you met me? You should know how weird I am. Anyway if you don't want your mom seeing my weird shit you've got to stop letting her go through my shit.' He asked if I left them on purpose to annoy her, and I admitted that was kinda the joke, but I also have other weird or private shit so what I said about her needing to stop snooping if she didn't want to find weird crap was still for real. He said I was making stuff hard for him, his mom was really protective and adjusting to him moving in with a girlfriend for the first time, and I was agitating her on purpose and making her think I wouldn't be a good partner, when he wanted her to have the opposite impression of me!

2025-10-30 09:30:57

Clara Jensen

Humor

AITA for potentially getting a teacher fired over a joke?

My brother (23) and I (22f) have raised our younger siblings together for the past few years (both our parents have died). The kids’ teachers know our situation and are generally pretty good about it. Though we still get some comments at parents’ evenings and correspondence from school is often sent to “Mr and Mrs (our surname)”. We are used to it and it’s usually no big deal, sometimes pretty funny. What I did NOT find funny was my 14yr old coming home from school saying he had a substitute teacher (the teacher works at the same school full time but doesn’t normally take any of our brother’s classes) and as they took the register and saw his surname, the teacher said, “Another Flowers in the Attic kid! How many more of you are there?!” Some of the kids laughed, most apparently didn’t really get it, and our brother was embarrassed but also didn’t get the reference. A bunch of the kids googled it in their next break and ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻.. ⬇️

2025-07-25 12:43:07

Clara Jensen

Humor

AITA for a joke I made during my best mans speech?

I (34M) was recently the Best Man at my friends (36M) second wedding, I was also the best man at his first. I saw this joke online and it made me laugh so I stole it and for my opening speech I said "right well....welcome back everyone." which got more than a few laughs, especially from the bride (31F) who seemed to find it hilarious. Everything went well, speech over and done with, though later on after a few drinks my friend began to rip me a new asshole telling me I was out of line with that kinda joke and how i'd embarrassed him and it wasn't funny and that I shouldn't have brought his last marriage into this, I mean a best mans speech will always be more jokey than anything and beyond that it was fairly tame and that was the only reference to his last marriage...was I really that out of line?

2025-09-08 07:40:38

Clara Jensen

WIBTA

WIBTA for not inviting my sister to my wedding as she's "joked" about "ruining" it after I ruined hers?

3 years ago, my ex boyfriend proposed to me at my sister's wedding, in front of everyone, while giving what was meant to be a best man speech (he was friends with the groom). It was not approved by anyone, especially not me or my sister, and I said no in front of everyone, and he stormed out. This definitely distracted from events so I left shortly after, apologising profusely. It's been a few years since then. My sister has said she's over it but she really isn't because she brings it up every time we see each other, and she's made it clear that she still holds a grudge. We were really close before (I was her maid of honour) but after that she sort of pulled away from me. I'm now engaged, not to the proposal guy, to another fella. We're planning the wedding for early 2022. My sister has been "joking" about "payback" for years now, saying that when I get married she's going to do something to "ruin" the wedding. I don't know what, but I have my theories, the front runner being announcing a pregnancy or some other milestone during the reception. We've had a conversation recently (about a month ago) where she said something like that, and I've said "I know my ex was a douche but please remember that I didn't want him to do that and please don't pull a stunt at my wedding" and her response has usually been something like "wow, yeah, I bet someone announcing a major milestone at your wedding would really ruin your event, though you probably wouldn't understand that unless it happened to you", or words to that effect. I have apologised multiple times, but it's been 3 years and she still holds a grudge against me. I was talking with my mum earlier, she asked if I'd started planning yet, I said no, and mum says that I should get my sister to help and I just sort of said that I'm not even sure about inviting her. It just kind of slipped out, tbh. In the rest of the conversation I admitted (after mum pressed me) that I was unsure about inviting her because of these "jokes" she's made over the years, because if 3, nearly 4, years later she's still making these "jokes", then they're probably not jokes any more, and inviting her might not be a good idea. Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those brides that expects everyone to just put their lives on hold for my wedding, but I feel like she's basically said that she is planning to fuck up my wedding. Mum, however, thinks I'm being unfair, that my sister is allowed to have feelings about her wedding day, and about mine, because my ex's actions did affect her day, and said that my sister is most likely only joking and I shouldn't take what she's said seriously, and definitely shouldn't leave her off the guest list for my wedding because of the jokes. She's also said that if my sister isn't invited, then she (as in mum) won't go either, in solidarity, and called me a bridezilla. WIBTA for not inviting my sister?

2025-09-08 19:35:41

Clara Jensen

Family

AITA for moving out after my sister’s boyfriend joked about killing my partner?

I (21F) have been with my boyfriend “Leo” (27M) for 3 years. My sister “Sophie” (22F) has been dating “Jake” (27M) for about 3 months. Due to financial stress, Sophie and I were both moving back in with our parents. Leo was coming with me, but Jake wasn’t supposed to move in — just help Sophie pack and move her things. The night before the move, Leo had just finished a late shift (around 1–2am) and was packing. I had reminded Sophie multiple times to leave out the packing tape since Leo would need it and didn’t want to disturb anyone. She forgot. Leo knocked on Sophie’s door at about one in the morning to ask for the tape. No answer. He knocked again, a bit louder. Suddenly, Jake stormed out ...𝗦𝗲𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝗻 𝟭𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁. 🍿

2025-07-24 13:43:15

Luca Moretti

Humor

AITA for lashing out at my coaches assistant for making a joke about my dad who recently passed?

So I 16M, was at swim practice earlier today (6:30-8:30PM) and this is one of my first practices back after my dad passed in early December. Anyways, I come in and get changed as usual, and then I get showered and head out to the pool deck. Keep in mind, I have gained a bit of weight since the last time they have seen me and I’m quite out of shape and struggling to keep up when we start the practice. My coach says welcome back and hugs me and stuff and he basically catches me up on everything that’s happened, what I’ve missed, etc. Then we start the warm up, it was quite difficult for me as I haven’t swam in almost 2 months. To begin the warm up, we had to dive off the blocks, my dive was really slow and sloppy as I haven’t practiced for a while. We get out of the water for the coach to explain the main set and the coaches assistant (I think she’s 38F but idk for sure) says “it’s a pity your dad couldn’t have died a little later to save you from this practice” and she starts laughing and I’m fuming at this point. I tell her to PO and to not talk about things like that and I left early. My mum has called the coach and told him that what was said today was unacceptable, and that she thinks it’s disgusting that an adult who I should view as an authority figure to trust and look up to would say such things.

2025-10-28 12:39:08

Jonas Bergström

Humor

AITA for walking away when my friends joked about fairy rings?

For people who don't know what fairy rings are: they're rings, usually made of mushrooms, in fields. There's folklore attached to them that says if a human steps into one, the fairies will take them away. I know this is not real, but I grew up with a very superstitious grandmother who would tell me this shit *all the time.* As a kid, if she saw me walking towards one, she would literally yell for me to stop and change direction. As an adult, again, I know they are not real, but that doesn't mean I'm about to start walking through fairy rings willy nilly. I live with my boyfriend and 2 friends (a couple), and we arranged to meet another couple for a hike. They tease me a lot for being "superstitious", as there have been a few other times that it's come up. We were hiking, and I saw a fairy ring directly ahead. Again, I know they aren't real, but I just tilted a little to the left, so I went around. No one noticed. Then a few minutes later, there was another, and again I went around. This then happened a third time. At that point, my friend asked why I kept swerving away from the group. I was like "huh. Didn't notice." but boyfriend realised and burst out laughing, telling them what I'm doing. They started laughing and joking and then began jumping in and out of the ring and stomping/kicking the mushrooms while teasing me about it. They were loud enough that a few people nearby were looking over, and they looked like total dickheads. I told them to stop but they didn't. I then started walking. We were on our way back, so I just kept going. They caught up with me a few minutes later and 3 out of the 5 people I was with said I was being a prat and overreacting, making them feel bad and ruining a nice day out. I said that acting like dickheads in public wasn't my idea of a good time and they said I was being bitchy. The other 2 said the joke's over, let's just head back, and things went back to normal-ish. However, once we were back, my boyfriend rounded on me and echoed his earlier sentiments (he was one of the people who gave me shit) saying that I embarrassed him and was acting bitchy over a joke, and I'm being overly superstitious and need to chill. I said he was being a pillock then, and he's being one now, and I'm sick of them teasing me and they should have known when I wasn't laughing along that I didn't find it funny. He said they aren't mind readers and I can't expect them to just know I don't find things funny, and I owe him, and the others, an apology, for getting upset over a joke about something I take too seriously, anyway. AITA?  Update: this morning my boyfriend and friends had a series of bad luck, I made a joke about it, and he lost his rag. We have now split up.

2025-09-16 19:33:17

Clara Jensen

Family

AITA for not accepting jokes about being an only-child after losing my sister?

I know it sounds stupid but I had a huge fight with my boyfriend (m26). He has 4 brothers and I‘m kind of an only-child because my sister died when she was 8 and I was 12. It was really sad for my whole family - especially my parents who separated after this. My boyfriend knows this. But he sometimes makes jokes about how I‘m an only-child and that I can not share (food) and stuff like that. I know that theses jokes are only typically jokes about this topic but it makes me sad. He did this again yesterday while we were meeting some of our friends. They also made some jokes and that was enough for me - I told them that this makes me sad and that I don’t like it and how I miss my sister and that I don’t feel like an only child because I still HAVE a sister - she’s „just“ not alive. Some of my friends were shocked and apologies but my boyfriend and two other friends argued that I’m just acting like an only-child (crying, being dramatic and not accepting jokes). I said that I would not accept this behaviour and that I don’t want to see them again if they act this way. Now I’m wondering if I was to harsh? It was a joke after all? Am I the asshole? Sorry for my bad English - I’m not from the USA and I’m feel very emotional while writing this.

2025-09-05 20:38:47

Clara Jensen

Family

AITA for backing out of paying for my sister's wedding dress over a "joke" she made?

I had an incident on my wedding day back in 2017, where my former fiance abandoned me and ran away with his pregnant mistress. That image, those details are forever engraved on my mind and I'll never forget how I felt that day. This was truly a turning point in my life. My family have always been there for me so I kept close to them. My younger sister is currently engaged and her wedding will be in few months. She's struggling with money so I decided to help her and her fiance and pay the wedding dress. This allowed her to be able to buy her dream wedding gown that costs 7,000 ($). It's a lot for a dress but she literally cried because she wanted it. (This happened few days before we agreed to go buy the dress). We were eating dinner at my parents home and my cousin and aunt were there. My aunt was asking my sister about the wedding and my sister said that everything was going according to plan and then casually laughed and said "let's just hope he won't ran away with a pregnant mistress or something in our wedding day..". I was blown away completely. She laughed and aunt laughed too as if this was a joke. She was basically mocking what happened with me in my wedding. It happened so fast I got up and started screaming at her calling her an idiot but my parents asked me to take it easy and she said it was a joke and she didn't "think" I'd react so intensely. My aunt remained seated and my cousin asked me to calm down and drink some water but I grabbed my stuff and as I was getting ready, I told my sister she was getting 0 dollars for her dream wedding dress then I walked out. I heard louder commotion as I walked and my dad and cousin followed me outside trying to talk but I asked to be left alone. My and dad spoke to saying I was too harsh on my sister over a joke and said that I know this is how she is with her dark sense of humor. They said she's been crying after I decided to back out of helping her and said this'd ruin her wedding. They want me to reconsider my decision since it might damage my relationship with my sister but I refused. Did I overreact? Info: it's my aunt that would usually bring up what happened from time to time and say stuff like "if what happened didn't happen you would've had at least 2 kids now" or "do you know what day it is? your wedding anniversary !" It's harsh but she stopped doing it anymore. Maybe my sister is being influenced by her but still. It hurt the same, and more coming from my own sister.

2025-10-22 10:55:21

Elise Dubois

Humor

AITA for not wanting to speak to my friends anymore over a "racist" joke?

Edit: I’ll stop using “cunt”; it’s got a less sexist meaning in the UK but that’s not much of an excuse for it. Apologies. When I moved to uni I quickly became friends with my flatmate, Tony. He's white but listens to a lot of rap/grime music. Sometimes he jokes about how I'm "not black" because I prefer older music and don't act like a "stereotypical" black guy. Not to mention, there'll be times where "nigga" comes up in a song or whatever and he just says it without caring. I'm not gonna lie, this bothers me. I've confronted him about it a few times and he always says he "forgets he's around a black person." Make of that what you will. I also became buds with another guy, Mark. Mark's a decent guy but he keeps asking me for the "n-word pass" as a joke and it's starting to get on my nerves. Mark has an asian girlfriend, which is important later. Me, Tony, Mark, and a few other mates were pre-drinking to go out last night. We were all pretty drunk, but not drunk enough to do or say anything we didn't mean (the night was pretty young). Everyone in the room was white, except for me. Mark made a racist joke (quinted his eyes with his fingers pretending to be asian) and everyone laughed, but I was taken aback. I was thinking *did he seriously just do that?* and I called him out on it in front of everyone. They all told me to lighten up, because I "talk about race all the time," but only because they're always joking about how I must have a huge dick because I'm black or asking for the n-word pass - most of the time, I'm telling them that it's not that funny and to leave it alone. I said that none of them have the right to make racist jokes like that and Mark told me that it wasn't aimed at me, so I shouldn't be offended by it. I told him to fuck off, and Tony started defending Mark - when I said that Tony wasn't in a position to talk either because he clearly doesn't care about saying nigger around me, he just looked at me and said, "that's a you problem, not a me problem." I called him a cunt and he said that's cool, and the room was silent for a minute or two. I went out on my own after they came back and Mark told me I'm like a brother to him and we're good friends and all that, trying to make up I guess. He said that he was one of three white people in his high school before he came to uni so he knew how it felt to get discriminated against. I asked him why he made the joke if that were the case, and the he actually stood there and said that it wasn't aimed at me so I shouldn't be offended. I told him I wasn't having it because jokes like this get cracked way too often for my liking and if he couldn't understand why I'd be offended by a racist joke, even if it wasn't aimed at me, then I didn't see him as a friend anymore. He said that he doesn't care (I guess the whole friend thing was bullshit) and then I went back inside, grabbed my booze, and drank on my own in my room. Did I overreact here? I haven't spoken to any of them since.

2025-09-17 17:28:47

Clara Jensen